tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7173567909624774356.post6725079053948602293..comments2024-03-08T02:11:48.990-07:00Comments on Moms In Need of Mercy: Coffee Talk Thursday: Today's GrandparentsMoms In Need Of Mercyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00378782100273197226noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7173567909624774356.post-19314332961987336992011-02-20T04:20:43.941-07:002011-02-20T04:20:43.941-07:00My parents live 3 hrs away and see us for about a ...My parents live 3 hrs away and see us for about a day once every month or two. Right now, the kids are at an age that they have tremendous energy, so the timeframe works best for the granparents, who aren't used to quite so much energy! But I wish they could (would choose to) take part in some of my daughter's activities as she gets older, like her school play, etc., as it does mean a lot to them.robbie @ going green mamahttp://going-green-mama.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7173567909624774356.post-47168581219008800842011-02-19T21:33:17.417-07:002011-02-19T21:33:17.417-07:00My parents are about an hour away so we go visit t...My parents are about an hour away so we go visit them a couple times a month. This week is winter break, so we are going tomorrow and they will keep my 5 yr old Kindergartener until Wednesday, then we will meet halfway at a restaurant and swap kids for the 11 yr old in Grade 6. I am the oldest of 4 kids, but didn't have my kids till I was 37 and 42 so they are the youngest grandkids... my brother (who is 15 months younger than I) will be a grandpa in March or April ~ and I am running around after a Kindergarten kid. I think it's funny. My parents prefer to take one at a time as they are in their Seventies and less fighting that way and they can gear activities to the proper age group.<br /><br />My ex-husband's adoptive mother and her husband try very hard to be good grandparents. She tries to send a "Sunday" letter every week, on various topics (they live in Scotland and we live in Canada) and they came last summer and took the kids for 5 days on a wee holiday. It is a bit weird as their own Dad isn't interested in taking them (and didn't go on the trip with his parents). So I try to photocopy report cards, blog about my son's homeschool stuff so they can see it etc.<br /><br />I don't imagine I'll be a grandma for a very long time... although my new husband (kids stepdad) is 8 yrs older than I and totally gray haired so we have been asked if "these are your grandchildren." He laughed and took it in stride and said, "No, she just started late!!"<br /><br />Denise in SaskatchewanDenisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14510675973613556112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7173567909624774356.post-48732267084087813562011-02-18T11:22:43.318-07:002011-02-18T11:22:43.318-07:00When I was younger I only saw my grandparents a co...When I was younger I only saw my grandparents a couple of times a year because they lived in another state. I have been blessed to be able to care for my grandchildren when their mother is at work. I was a stay-at-home mom of three, with my youngest still in high school, when my oldest child got married and I became a grandmother. It just seemed natural that I would care for her child because we didn't want to place her in daycare and my daughter really couldn't afford it anyway. She has had four children so I have been caring for them for almost 10 years. Three of them are in school so it's easier now. I have at times complained about how the children tire me out. I don't know how I managed it when I was caring for a 5 year old, 2 year old twins, and a newborn when they were younger. But, after all these years, I can't imagine what it would be like if we lived far away from each other and I didn't see their sweet little faces almost every day. The youngest will be starting school in the fall. When I think about it I get a little sad but will still be caring for them on school breaks and at times when their Mom and Dad need a night out.Debnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7173567909624774356.post-7028271847859422812011-02-18T11:09:49.849-07:002011-02-18T11:09:49.849-07:00My children have 4 sets of grandparents and 3 sets...My children have 4 sets of grandparents and 3 sets of great grandparents. On set of Grandparents doesn't really make an effort (and in fact is quite critical of our parenting) so we don't connect much with them. The other 3 sets and 1 set of greats are quite good at keeping in touch and having special memory making times when we visit.Goat Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03357281106627958793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7173567909624774356.post-78593855563677021072011-02-18T07:30:58.878-07:002011-02-18T07:30:58.878-07:00I find this to be very true. My parents see my ch...I find this to be very true. My parents see my children maybe once a year (sometimes less) and they're both within five hours of us. This is a painful issue for me, as it almost makes me feel rejected myself. We would visit them more often, but they don't have room in their homes for a family of seven to descend on them and we can't afford hotel stays. My inlaws are within two miles and we see them at least once a month, usually more. I am thankful my children will know them well and have memories.<br /><br />I realize I can't change my parents' hearts. They were this way toward me, for the most part, growing up because of the reasons in your post. Until they have the true love of Christ in their hearts they cannot love others the way God intended.Jennifer H.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7173567909624774356.post-92023579366573187842011-02-18T06:05:26.889-07:002011-02-18T06:05:26.889-07:00My parents, my sons' grandparents, live far aw...My parents, my sons' grandparents, live far away. They visit about twice a year (once every six months) for a long weekend (friday to monday). They have the finances to visit, but would usually rather spend their trips going on vacations. They were recently out for a visit and at the end were telling me how they think they must just be "fanatical" grandparents because they enjoy being with them and seeing them so much. It was a little weird to listen to that because in my head I'm thinking you only see them twice a year....so yes, I think things really have changed.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15077190277243740343noreply@blogger.com