This whole thing made me think about the magic of first kisses.
Do you remember your first kiss (let's focus on our first kiss with our husbands)? Do you remember the feeling that accompanied it? Perhaps the anticipation, the butterflies in your stomach? Then, after the kiss, can you recall how excited you felt that he kissed you, and how you wanted him to kiss you again? Now, a wedding ring, and kids, and years later, do we still crave our husband's kiss? If not, why not?
Do our days become so busy that we become so tired and overwhelmed that a quick peck before he heads out the door and when he gets home is all we can muster? Maybe it seems passionate kisses should be reserved for the bedroom only (after all, little eyes are usually watching). Perhaps, once married, kissing just seems a little too rudimentary. I don't know what the reason is exactly. I just know that somewhere along the way, I stopped craving my husband's kiss--not entirely, of course, but not in the same way I craved it years ago when our relationship was new. And I don't think that's ok.
While the love and friendship I share now with my husband are much deeper than the early days of our infatuation, I think it is still possible (and desirable) to crave our husband's kiss. So how can we bring that about?
- Pray about it and ask God to renew those desires
- Think about those early days of courtship
- Spend intentional time thinking about your husband, and specifically what is attractive to you about him
- Seek to be affectionate
Well, it's Coffee Talk Thursday, so I'd love to hear your thoughts!
"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine." (Song of Solomon, 1:2).