Monday, March 8, 2010

The Secret of Being a Super Mom


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The first few days of last week were rough. Real rough. My husband was out of town for a few days, and my kids were just acting incorrigible. They fought (complete with biting and hair pulling) and I had to pull them off each other several times a day, for several days in a row. One threw horrible tantrums. It was wearing on me, to say the least.

I totally reached the end of my rope, and I wondered what, as a parent, I was doing wrong that I wasn’t getting through to my kids to cease their bad behavior. Then it dawned on me: I forgot the secret of being a super mom.

The secret is simple really, and yet very profound. It is God’s empowering strength. It is He who works in us to will and to act according to His good purpose (Phil. 2:13). I was giving myself too much credit, and taking too much responsibility for my boys.

What I’m trying to say is—ultimately, these are God’s children. They are His creation, given to my husband and I to care for, train, love and point to the Savior. That is hard work. But ultimately, the responsibility for them lies with God. I have to trust that God takes my efforts—however humble they seem at times—and uses them to produce the fruit that He desires in my son’s lives.

Super Mom gives God more credit than she gives herself. This approach provides much needed mercy. We all fail in many ways, and it is reassuring to know, that despite our failures, God—in His sovereignty—has a plan for each of our children’s lives.
"So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow." (1 Cor. 3:7)

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Messy Monday: Women Who Love Too Much

Today we’re looking at habit #4 of my post, the “Seven Secrets of Highly Successful Housekeepers”. They’re ruthless when it comes to getting rid of stuff. They would rather err on the side of getting rid of something that’s cluttering up space now—even if they have to buy it again later, instead of hanging onto it for that “maybe-someday” possibility later.

image courtesy Joe Shlabotnik

When I was packing to leave London after my semester there in college, I ran out of room in my suitcase, but I still had a bunch of stuff I wanted to take back with me. There was Toblerone chocolate, and these really good sandwich cookies, and other non-edible souvenirs. I couldn’t bear to leave any of it behind, but I had to—it just wouldn’t fit. A friend had to help me make the hard decisions in the wee hours of the morning before our plane left.

Sometimes, the clutter control mantra of “only keep what you love” is just not helpful for those of us who love too much. We have a lot of stuff, and we love it all. So what’s a girl to do?


In these situations, I think it’s helpful to play a little mind-game with ourselves. Pretend that you’re getting advance notice that in a few hours, your home will be destroyed by a natural disaster. You need to pack up your favorite belongings and get moving. You have a very limited amount of time to make some hard and fast decisions about what you love the most.


What would you grab? What would you leave behind? If you’re ok with leaving it behind, you don’t really love it as much as you think you love it. Everyday life does not call for such drastic measures, but if you want to find more white space in your home, you need to take dramatic steps.


Once you decide what you really want to keep, then you have to follow through. This can be just as hard. If you decide, for instance, that you would only grab certain clothes in an evacuation, these really are the ones you love the most. Your existence would go on just fine without the lesser-loved items. Decide to pack these up, and donate them to the nearest thrift store, a friend, or take them to a consignment store if you want to earn some money for them. Do it fast, before you start thinking about how much you really do love that green sweater your sister got you two Christmas’ ago, even though you’ve never worn it…yet.


This Messy Monday, I encourage you to start by picking one manageable area to sort through. Maybe it’s a shelf in the closet, or a drawer in the kitchen. Sort through it ruthlessly, and let go of some of the loves in your life. You’ll feel much freer once you let them go.
Do you have a Messy Monday tip for getting it together? If so, please enter a link to your post. As a courtesy, please leave a link back to this post in your post. Thanks and have a great, not-so-messy Monday!

(linked to Frugal Friday)

Saturday, March 6, 2010

A Cup of Tea a Day May Keep the Doctor Away

Have you heard about Rooibos Tea? It's from South Africa, and is rich in vital minerals and Vitamin C--and it's 100% caffeine free. It was reportedly discovered during recent university research,that this "miracle tea" contains high levels of an agent that fights free radicals that can cause aging. Research also shows that Rooibos tea has more antioxidant action than green tea.

An informational sheet I have says that Rooibos tea is now clinically prescribed for nervous tension, allergies, and stomach/digestion problems. It has reportedly been found to relieve insomnia and stomach cramps and has a soothing affect on skin when directly applied. It offers relief for diaper rash (add lukewarm brewed tea to bath water) and other skin irritations, and is especially helpful for babies with colic (I think you would just give them 1/2 tsp. to 1 tsp., much like the "gripe water").

Some of my friends have given up coffee for Lent, and I've encouraged them to turn to Rooibos tea as a delicious alternative. You can even brew a pot in your coffee pot. I've tried it; it works great! (You can use 1 tsp.-1 T. per cup, depending on taste preference.).

Whether hot or cold, it's a delicious thirst-quencher, and a healthy option for all members of the family. In Mad Hungry, Lucinda Scala Quinn writes,
"Soda? Don't. Obviously if you never keep soda at home, your kids won't drink it all the time because it won't be there. Instead, teach them to drink plain and sparkling water and other fresh and delicious beverages, such as fresh, natural juice, cold sweetened herbal infusions, and various milks and nectars. As long as something good is there to quench their thirst, they'll avoid loading their bodies with too much sugar and empty calories. "
Ms. Quinn's recommendation is to prepare a large batch of rooibos tea and leave it chilled in the refrigerator as an alternative to soda or juice. I especially love that my kids can drink this, since it's caffeine free (they don't need any more energy than they already have--trust me!). They love a small cup in the morning with milk (you can add honey if you want). (The recipe in Mad Hungry is: (1/4 c. loose tea, 5 c. boiling water, 2 T. honey; steep for 4 minutes and strain. Stir in the honey. Serve hot or cold over ice.)

Now what kind of friend would I be if I left you hanging after making you thirsty for some Rooibos tea? :)
I purchase my loose Rooibos tea from a local coffee roaster (I recommend their fresh-roasted coffee as well; they roast it when you order it, so it is as fresh as you'll find anywhere!). They generously agreed to give away a quarter-pound bag of Rooibos tea to one lucky reader. The winner can choose the flavor of her choice. For future orders, P. Hawk Coffee and Tea can be reached via email at pheasanthawk80@yahoo.com, or phone (307) 234-6073. They ship within the continental United States.

The flavors are:
Plain, anise, Belgian chocolate (this is great!), black currant, blueberry, creme au caramel, masala chai, cranagrante, cranberry, earl grey, sunshine lemon, lemon ginger, mango, Florida orange, Dutch licorice, Georgia peach, corsica pear, pina colada (this is one of my favorites!), Provence, rainbow, raspberry, Segovia muffin, Sgt. Peppers, Le Marche Spice, strawberry, bourbon street vanilla, and wild berry

Leave a comment to be entered to win. I'll draw a winner Wednesday. (Due to possible customs complications with shipping loose tea, the winner must be in the continental U.S. Thanks for understanding!)

Saturday Evening Blog Post: February 2010


It is time again for the Saturday Evening Blog Post hosted by Elizabeth Esther.
I chose "The Topic of 'Me' Time" as my favorite post of last month.
However, these were close runner-ups! If you haven't read them yet, I encourage you to check them out!



Head on over to Elizabeth Esther's site and link up your own favorite post from February!

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Mad Hungry: Feeding Men and Boys--Review and Giveaway

“Feeding my four guys has been one of the greatest pleasures of my life. I’ve had more fun in the kitchen and at the dinner table with them than almost anywhere else. Eating is something we have to do, so why give it short shrift? If you have to do it, make it beautiful and spread the beauty.”

So begins Mad Hungry: Feeding Men and Boys by Lucinda Scala Quinn. This mother of three guys knows a lot about food. She’s been cooking professionally since she was a teenager and now serves as Executive Food Director for Martha Stewart Living Omnimedia, and co-hosts PBS’ Everyday Food.

I have written before about how picky I am about books; I don’t endorse them lightly. But I am absolutely “mad” about Mad Hungry. Lucinda gets it: the joy that comes from feeding our families good food, the importance of making home-cooked meals, the importance of teaching our boys to cook. “Create a legacy,” she writes. “Serve old-fashioned—meaning simple—meals, the kind moms everywhere have always made. When I was a kid, meals were predictable, comforting, familiar, tasty and most of all consistent…Anyone who grew up with someone cooking regular meals remembers those dishes as if they were eaten yesterday.”

 She encourages us to build our own recipe collection out of what appeals to our family’s tastes, and then serve those meals frequently to build a “sensory food bank.” These smells and tastes are what our guys will remember when they’re out on their own. They’ll beckon them home.

In addition to delicious breakfast, lunch, dinner and dessert recipes, Mad Hungry is chock-full of cooking help, such as choosing knives and pans; shopping with kids; tips for cleaning up (and teaching boys to help); and “ten tenets" for "how and why to feed your guys” (I loved this section).

While I aim to feed my family healthfully, I am also always looking for new ideas to save money without compromising quality. Ms. Quinn offered a cost-saving menu-planning idea. She intersperses three evenings of meat with a pasta night, a soup night, and a bean night. Yet, she encourages us to keep food spending in perspective:
 “What you consume on a daily basis is your first line of defense against ill health…My philosophy when it comes to what food I buy, consume, and serve others is I’d rather invest my dollars on best-quality food choices than on new clothes or a new car.”
On that note, people always joke about how expensive it is to feed teenage boys (or growing boys of any age, for that matter). In Mad Hungry: Feeding Men and Boys, you’ll find snack ideas to fill them up healthfully and frugally, such as:
  • Sweet potato wedges (recipe in the book)
  • Popcorn with parmesan cheese
  • Fruit smoothies
  • Vegetables: “When your kids are young, keep many varieties of colorful crunchy and crispy vegetables available for snacks instead of sugary, salty choices. Sliced cucumber, red bell peppers, and celery can fill up a boy and boost his energy until dinner without ruining his appetite. This should be the first response to the common cry, ‘I’m starving.’ Just cut a load of raw vegetables into different shapes and pile them into a bowl.”
  • Increase beans, grains and starches to make meals go further
Reading this book cover-to-cover benefited me much, and I love to re-read portions when I have a few extra minutes—it gives me a warm feeling, as if I was cooking in my Grandma’s kitchen again. I know you’ll love it too. Courtesy of Artisan Press, I am giving away one copy to a reader (U.S. only please, and no P.O. boxes).

To enter, simply leave a comment with a way to contact you if you’re the winner. The winner will be randomly drawn and posted next Wednesday, March 10.


But of course, no cookbook review would be complete without a few recipes. So again, courtesy of Artisan Press, here are three mouth-watering, healthy, and filling recipes straight from Mad Hungry for you to try:

italian fries

serves 6 (if you are very lucky)

copyright Artisan Press

"My oldest brother, Jim, is proof positive that if you cook well for a boy, he’ll want to cook for himself. Presently this six-foot-five father of three strapping teenage boys effortlessly turns out delicious meals day in and day out for his own family. His sons are athletes who eat a ton—but their meals are always fresh and prepared with love. When our extended families gather to prepare a meal, their father is always at the forefront, planning and executing. My parents taught all three of my brothers to cook and eat well, but Jim has perfected my mom’s specialty—a twist on oven fries originated by our Italian relatives. Everyone goes crazy for them, and there are never enough!"
  • 6 or 7 Idaho potatoes, peeled and sliced into 1⁄3-inch-thick French fry–style strips, soaked in cold salted water
  • 4 tablespoons (1/4 cup) extra-virgin olive oil
  • 1 tablespoon dried Italian herbs or
  • some combo of dried oregano, thyme, marjoram, and basil
  • 2 cups freshly grated Romano cheese
  • 1/4 cup fresh parsley leaves, finely chopped
  • 4 tablespoons (1/2 stick) salted butter, cut into 6 cubes
  • Coarse salt and freshly ground black pepper
Preheat the oven to 400°F. Drain the potatoes and pat dry with paper towels. Spread 1 tablespoon of the olive oil on each of 2 rimmed baking sheets and spread out the potatoes. Overlapping is fine.
Sprinkle the dried herbs evenly over the potatoes. Liberally spread the cheese and parsley on top. Drizzle the remaining 2 tablespoons of olive oil over the cheese. Scatter the cubed butter around the pans.
Bake until the potatoes are golden brown, rotating the pans after 30 minutes, for 45 to 50 minutes total. Use a spatula to lift off the potatoes with all the crusty cheese adhered to them. Sprinkle with salt and pepper to taste. Serve hot. ★

savory chicken pocket pies
makes 10 pocket pies
copyright Artisan Press
"One of the kids came home from school one day asking for Hot Pockets, saying he’d eaten them at a friend’s house. A supermarket freezer item, Hot Pockets come two in a box, and one boy could easily gobble up two boxes in one sitting. They are processed, laden with preservatives, and expensive, and I loathe them. Still, their utility is undeniable. So I decided to re-create a similarly attractive homemade version—something the kids could quickly heat up by themselves and snack on. The idea was to replicate the convenience, but use the best ingredients according to the boys’ specifications. I came up with a spinach version and a chicken one. For younger children, bake the pockets first, then cool and freeze (Step 5) so they can simply be heated up in the microwave. For older boys, freeze the pockets unbaked (Step 4); the boys can bake the pockets themselves, straight out of the freezer into the oven."

  • 1 3-pound chicken (to get 1 heaping cup of shredded meat; you can freeze remainder for other recipes)
  • 2 tablespoons unsalted butter
  • 1/2 cup chopped onion
  • 1/3 cup chopped celery (1 large stalk)
  • 1/3 cup chopped carrot (1 carrot)
  • 1/2 teaspoon coarse salt
  • 2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
  • 1 1/2 cups chicken broth (from the reduced poaching liquid)
  • 1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese
  • 1 recipe (2 disks) Cream Cheese Pastry (recipe in book)
  • 1 large egg, for egg wash
Place the chicken in a pot and add water to barely cover. Bring to a boil, reduce the heat, and simmer for 50 minutes. Skim and discard any foam as it rises to the surface. Remove the chicken to cool. Continue to boil the broth to reduce and concentrate to about 1 quart. Remove the meat from the chicken and shred.

To make the filling, melt the butter in a medium-sized hot skillet and add the onion, celery, and carrot. Sauté over medium heat for 2 to 3 minutes. Stir in the salt and flour and cook for 1 minute more. Add the chicken broth and stir until thickened, about 2 minutes. Stir in 1 heaping cup shredded chicken and the Parmesan cheese. Cool in the fridge.

Preheat the oven to 375°F. Butter or line a baking sheet.
To form the pocket pies, work with half of a disk of dough at a time, rolling it out on a floured surface. See page 65 for rolling instructions. Using an overturned bowl (about 5 inches across), cut out circles about 3 at a time from each piece of dough. After cutting out all your circles, gather all dough scraps, rer0ll, and cut out a final time. Place ¼ cup filling on one side of a dough circle. Wet the edges of the dough with water. Fold the dough over to form a half circle. Pinch the edges of the dough together. Crimp the edges with a fork. Repeat the process until all the filling is used. The pocket pies can be frozen at this point.

Place the pocket pies on the prepared baking sheet and chill for a few minutes. Prick each pie on top twice with a fork. When ready to bake, beat the egg with 1 tablespoon water. Brush the egg wash over each pocket pie. Bake for 20 to 25 minutes, until golden brown. Let rest for 5 minutes before serving. The pies can be cooled and frozen to reheat in the microwave. ★

mexican egg scramble
serves 6
copyright Artisan Press

"For anyone on the go, this is a hearty, portable breakfast—eggs wrapped in tortilla and twisted up in foil on the fly have satisfied my boys for twenty years. At home, just place the pan with the eggs and toasted corn tortillas in the center of the table. Everyone can make their own taco at the table or just use the tortillas as a fork-shovel. Alternatively, salted tortilla chips also make a crunchy contrast to the soft eggs, crumbled over the top. I love these eggs very spicy, but the chilies can be adjusted to taste. If you’re cooking for one, use two eggs and adjust the other ingredients accordingly."

  • 18 corn tortillas or 1 bag salted tortilla chips
  • 1 tablespoon vegetable oil
  • 5 scallions (both white and green parts), chopped, or ½ cup chopped onion
  • 4 to 6 serrano or jalapeño chilies, minced
  • 1 large or 2 small tomatoes, coarsely chopped
  • 1¼ teaspoons coarse salt
  • ¼ cup chopped fresh cilantro (optional)
  • 1 dozen large eggs

If using corn tortillas, toast individually over a gas flame on low or in a pan for about 40 seconds per side. Stack on top of each other and wrap in foil or a clean kitchen towel. This will steam the toasted tortillas for pliability.Heat a 14-inch skillet and then add the oil and swirl it around in the pan. Stir in the scallions and chilies. Add the tomatoes, salt, and cilantro, if using. Stir over high heat for about 2 minutes. Crack the eggs one at a time into the skillet and stir. Cook just until the eggs are set, 1 to 2 minutes. Serve immediately: scoop a portion of eggs onto each plate and offer 3 tortillas each, or crumble tortilla chips over the egg mixture. ★

“So no matter how busy you are, sauté that onion, rip up fresh basil, or slow-roast a pork shoulder. That’s all it takes to fill their sense memory and make your family feel good for a lifetime.”--Lucinda Scala Quinn

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