Friday, November 4, 2011

Why You Need a Friend

I commited to blog every day for the next 30 days with BlogHer's NaBloPoMo challenge.

Everyday, I have ideas of what I want to write about. Everyday, I can't seem to find the time to sit down and write as thoroughly as I'd like to. So I don't. I wait until I can say it all, the way I want to say it. (Sometimes, I need to process my thoughts, too. Like this week, I'm thinking through big things--adversity and motherhood, handling challenges, not feeling depressed. Through God's grace and mercy, I'm reaching conclusions. I'll share them with you...soon).

But, for the next 30 days, I will not let my hesitancy to post until I'm ready to write it well hold me back.

So off the top of my head, today I just want to say:

You need a friend.

Blogs are great and a wonderful source of encouragement. But what I'm realizing lately is you need a real-life friend--someone you can call in the middle of the afternoon and say, "I'm having a really bad day, wanna take the kids to the park?" Or, "I'm about to lose it. Can we meet at the park?" Or, "I need to get out of the house for a bit. Wanna go to McDonald's play land?"

Friends help us keep our sanity when our husbands are still at work. Friends help lift our spirits. Friends encourage us simply by sharing that they're struggling with the same things we are. Friends inspire us by sharing what's working for them. Friends give us new ideas. Friends even order pizza for us, when they know our mother-in-law is coming and we need a crash-cleaning day.

Friends are a blessing. Celebrate the ones you have. Pray for a good one if you need one now.


  1. I do need a friend!! I have been telling my husband for months now that I am feeling at a loss because I do not belong to a community of real friends. I am living several states away from my family and have struggled to make good connections here. Thank you for encouraging me to pray for a good friend! I will start doing that!

  2. A few of my best friends...I've met via blogging.

    I've taken a 5.5 hr journey to her home 2 states away. And her family has done the same and came to our home.

    This friendship "began" because of a common bond that we were introduced from 'go figure' another blogging momma. Little did we know that we have more 'common bonds'.

    Had my family not just bought a house...well I can say for certain we would consider moving closer to this wonderful momma. She's been my lifeline several times over the last month as I've hit a very dark spot.

    I wish my IRL best friend I could say the same about.

  3. I feel the same way about things I want to say on my blog, and I was just thinking today I should commit to doing a little post each day!

    I am thankful to have a very like-minded IRL friend, as well as a couple I am reaching out to!

  4. Hi Jessica, I prayed for you on that one too :)
    L--that's great that you found a close friend through the blogging community. Having someone in real life (whether near or far) sure does help us, as you mentioned.
    Melanie, yes, you should try to! I'm finding, if I just blog as best I can in the few minutes I have, it takes some of the pressure off from feeling like I can't write now because I can't write well write now. Just write!
    I agree with what you said, too. Sometimes, finding new friends just takes a little outreach!
    Have a great day!